So, if everything except the caliper or disk is in place, it's quiet? The pads may drag a little (all the time) but not enough to make big grind noise. If they do, we should look at if you have the correct caliper, have some bolts or washers in the wrong order, or are missing a spacer or something. They should not grind.... but they may not be silent either.
Were you planning on riding it to the machine shop, taking the front wheel off there in the parking lot, remove the brake disk, having them machine it and then put it all back together and ride home? Unless they agree up front, they may not do it while you wait. Also, they may take offense to you doing work in the lot. Ask first or risk offending someone.
Permatex brand = Loctite brand They are essentially the same and both reputable brands. My $2 guess-itmate may have thrown you off. But... $5 to keep the forks on the bike is a small price to pay. Yes, a torque wrench would be nice (better) but this is a close second.